People who are in relationships often imagine that being single is a great passport to an active and rewarding sex life. And so it can be. But often that's not the case. Many people who are on their own, and especially anyone who is recently single again, will find themselves lacking the time, energy, confidence, money or simply opportunity to lead the kind of lifestyle where sexual contacts are likely to happen.
Cynthia Spillman goes head to head with some age-old myths on sex and the suddenly single. You’re better off travelling alone than with a bad companion My French grandmother regularly used to cite this African proverb, having had to endure my flamboyant grandfather’s 25 year long affair with a woman whom he’d met in a shoe shop. But the sad truth is that my demure, codependent but highly accomplished grandmother, one of the first women ever to win the prestigious “Prix de Rome” for fashion design, lived in abject denial of her sexuality. Whilst I don’t condone my grandfather’s behaviour, … Continue reading →
Being single again doesn’t mean the end of your sex life, says agony aunt and therapist Christine Webber. ‘I hope you don’t mind me saying this,’ said the elderly gent. ‘but my wife died three months ago – and the worst thing is that I really miss the sex.’ This 80-year-old widower found he could talk to relatives and the vicar about his loneliness, but he hadn’t been able to tell anyone he was sexually frustrated. Not until he wrote to me, that is. Then, only last week, a young woman of 17 told me she had ended her current … Continue reading →
We all have moments when the stresses and strains of modern life just get too much for us and we feel we can’t cope, says Kate Puplett. Here are a few stress-busters, some well-known, some downright strange, which work for me. Try to set aside a few minutes each day – even quarter of an hour will make a difference – to take a step back from the demands and busyness of life and create a time devoted to your own physical, mental and spiritual well-being. It is a good idea to create an area in your home which is … Continue reading →