Astonishing numbers of women (and a considerable number of men) are victims of domestic abuse or violence: up to one in four women and one in six men, according to official statistics. The British police estimate that they get a call every minute from someone who is a victim of domestic abuse.

If you suffered from domestic abuse or violence in your relationship, you may need to take special measures now you are on your own. First and foremost, of course, is your personal safety and that of your children and other loved ones.

Second, you need to ensure that your ex is not able to exert any kind of pressure on you to let him or her back into your life. That means cutting off or controlling all direct and indirect channels of communication - including phone, email and social media on the one hand, as well as any people who may be willing to act on their behalf.

Third, you need to get all the arrangements in place to enable you to make a fresh start and begin the process of recovery and rebuilding.

Where to find help

There are many resources available for abused and battered women, including crisis hotlines, shelters—even job training, legal services, and childcare.

Useful organisations in The Singles Directory

Other useful links

Gov.Uk Domestic violence and abuse section

Domestic abuse is very common and can ruin lives. The term refers to threats, violence or abuse between people who have a relationship with each other (or have had in the past). Some organisations use the word ‘abuse’ instead of ‘violence’, but we think these terms are interchangeable. Domestic violence happens between people who are in, or have been in a relationship, or are family members. Domestic abuse can take different forms. Physical abuse: Pushing, hitting, punching, kicking, choking and using weapons. Sexual abuse: Forcing or pressuring someone to have sex (rape), unwanted sexual activity, touching, groping someone or making them watch pornography. Financial abuse: Taking money, controlling finances, not letting someone work. Emotional/psychological abuse: Making someone feel bad or scared, stalking, blackmailing, constantly checking up on someone, playing mind games. If you decide, at any stage, that leaving the abuser or your home is something you need to do, we can help support you as you move away. • health • housing • welfare benefits • other sources of help Whatever you choose to do, we know that your safety is the most important thing. The decision to take action against the person abusing you may be difficult, but if you do decide at any time that you want to report the abuse to the police, we can provide information and support. - See more at: