Social media is causing women to fall into the dangerous trap of ex obsession, says Trelawney Kerrigan, author of ‘Be the Hollywood Heroine of Your Own Life’.
Until the late nineties, a break-up was a furtive affair. The agony of the final farewell would be followed by several days in hibernation, the urge to call an ex tempered by the fact that some-one else might pick up with a crushing “Who’s calling?”
To a rejected soul in the midst of a self-esteem crisis, assertively stating one’s genuine identity was just unthinkable, akin to writing a perky ‘hello’ on an ex’s Facebook wall before a pain-staking check of all ‘recent activity’.
Pre social media, the family landline was the nearest thing to a high-tech stalking device, its limited anonymity creating a protective barrier between the broken-hearted soul and its prey.
Post social media, the numerous virtual windows into the existence of an ex can create dangerous levels of both obsession and isolation. We can see but we can’t touch.
Date: 9th August 2013
Writer: Kate Morley
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